Books
Wounded: The Forgotten Survivors of Gun Violence
Foreward by Gabby Giffords
Every Breath You Take
“Take excellent care of yourself, Lisa,” he wrote in the letters sent to her PO box, “there are so many bad things that can happen when you least expect it. Even though I don’t know where you are tonight, we will run into each other soon. Remember, we’re always breathing the same air.”
It was 1990. Even though Lisa had come to the domestic violence shelter where I worked to escape her violent husband, he continued terrorizing her. He had told her he’d kill her if she ever left him, and he’d mea
It was 1990. Even though Lisa had come to the domestic violence shelter where I worked to escape her violent husband, he continued terrorizing her. He had told her he’d kill her if she ever left him, and he’d mea
The Choreography of Intimate Partner Violence
Denise was in her mother’s kitchen making a grilled cheese sandwich for her toddler when the bullet hit her in the back. Greg, her estranged husband, had shot through the back window, and after shooting Denise, he shot himself in the head. Denise survived, though she had a long recovery. The bullet just missed her spinal cord. With a bullet in the brain, Greg died immediately.
Denise had been my client and fled to her mother’s house two hundred miles away when she decided to leave her violent h
Denise had been my client and fled to her mother’s house two hundred miles away when she decided to leave her violent h
Do You Think Like a Cult Member?
I was four years old when I learned about the lake of fire in Sunday school. Though we sang, “Jesus loves me, this I know,” it was the vision of burning in hell for eternity that stuck with me and haunted my dreams.
I was raised in Christian Fundamentalist churches. From my early years in Southern Baptist Sunday school to my teen years in the Assembly of God church, where I watched “demons” cast out of my friends during morning services, I experienced the full effects of the extremes of religio
I was raised in Christian Fundamentalist churches. From my early years in Southern Baptist Sunday school to my teen years in the Assembly of God church, where I watched “demons” cast out of my friends during morning services, I experienced the full effects of the extremes of religio
Be My Witness
Most of us suffer a crisis of loneliness at one time or another; sometimes, it's a constant unseen presence by our side. After all, who really knows the things that make my heart pound or skin prickle, and the thoughts that haunt me in the middle of the night? Who knows my doubts and shame, my laundry list of regrets?
I'm a therapist, so it's my role to ask questions as I work to get to know a person. It's my job to see each individual, connect, and get to know them as fully as possible. It tak
I'm a therapist, so it's my role to ask questions as I work to get to know a person. It's my job to see each individual, connect, and get to know them as fully as possible. It tak
A Message From Your Future Self
Years ago, when I was in my early twenties and struggling to find a direction for my life, an excellent therapist helped me create my optimal career path.
Her influence, combined with my passion for psychology, resulted in my decision to also become a therapist. Since then I have made it a point to pass on the most helpful things I learned from that wonderful woman to my own clients.
One of those consistently helpful things is the future-self exercise.
The method used for this is guided medit
Her influence, combined with my passion for psychology, resulted in my decision to also become a therapist. Since then I have made it a point to pass on the most helpful things I learned from that wonderful woman to my own clients.
One of those consistently helpful things is the future-self exercise.
The method used for this is guided medit
When Television Kills
It’s official now, though I already knew it. Television shows have the power to tip fragile young people into taking their own lives and as a society we’ve consistently underestimated the power of media to influence behavior.
Social contagion is real, and we have had data for years to prove it. Teenagers are particularly prone to it. Social contagion is why we see suicide clusters in communities after one suicide.
People often deny that media has any influence on their behavior, but behavioral
Social contagion is real, and we have had data for years to prove it. Teenagers are particularly prone to it. Social contagion is why we see suicide clusters in communities after one suicide.
People often deny that media has any influence on their behavior, but behavioral
Personality Traits Common in Mass Killers
Mass killers are not identical but there are specific personality traits that they tend to share. Paranoia, narcissism, and psychopathy are the most common that cluster together. Though many people have these traits and never commit violence, it’s an area of concern that indicates the need for careful screening by mental health clinicians.
Personality is the characteristic way we perceive, think, feel, and behave in the world. It’s stable over time and in a variety of settings and circumstances
Personality is the characteristic way we perceive, think, feel, and behave in the world. It’s stable over time and in a variety of settings and circumstances
Conspiracy Thinking May Kill Us All
What You Need to Understand About the Conspiracy Mindset
We're Wired to Survive
When I was in my early twenties, my best friend was kidnapped while walking home from a grocery store just after dark. I’ll call her Rina. She was then gang-raped and stabbed before escaping. Rina survived after a harrowing two hours held in the back of a van.
Rina’s story is a vivid example of the body's intricate and innate response to crises, also known as the fight-flight-freeze-fawn response.
This response occurs without our conscious awareness in times of danger. Humans have evolved to s
Rina’s story is a vivid example of the body's intricate and innate response to crises, also known as the fight-flight-freeze-fawn response.
This response occurs without our conscious awareness in times of danger. Humans have evolved to s
How the Parkland School Massacre Could Have Been Prevented
I’m passionate about violence prevention, and mass shootings have been an area of study for decades. As a mental health therapist for over 30 years, I’ve worked as a member of multidisciplinary treatment teams in forensic mental health programs and residential treatment centers. I’ve worked with all sorts of violent people, including murderers. We know mass shootings are one of the most preventable kinds of violent crime; if we want them to stop, we must do some things differently.
I’ve watched
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How the Parkland School Massacre Could Have Been Prevented
I’m passionate about violence prevention, and mass shootings have been an area of study for decades. As a mental health therapist for over 30 years, I’ve worked as a member of multidisciplinary treatment teams in forensic mental health programs and residential treatment centers. I’ve worked with all sorts of violent people, including murderers. We know mass shootings are one of the most preventable kinds of violent crime; if we want them to stop, we must do some things differently.
I’ve watched
I’ve watched
The Minds of Mass Killers: Understanding and Interrupting the Pathway to Violence
Game Addiction The Experience and the Effects
Co-author with Neils Clark
